INCREDIBLE!

I LOGGED ON THIS MORNING TO THIS BLOG AND READ SOME OF THE TERRIBLE THINGS THAT THE ALIENATED PARENT GOES THROUGH AND IT IS UNIMAGINABLE WHAT THE CHILD MUST BE GOING THROUGH UNLESS YOU ARE LIVING THIS NIGHTMARE.

WHILE READING A FEW POSTS I GOT THE IMPRESSION THAT WE ARE ANGRY AS A GROUP.
I ATTEMPTED TO RATIONALISE THESE FEELINGS. WE ARE ANGRY AND RIGHTFULLY SO!

OUR ONCE PRECIOUS CHILDREN HAVE BEEN RIPPED FROM  OUR LIVES AND THEIR MINDS HAVE BEEN MOLESTED BY THE ALIENATING PARENT. THESE MONSTERS THAT STARTED THIS WAR WITH THE OTHER PARENT BY USING THE CHILDREN SHOULD BE PUT IN A MENTAL FACILITY AND NOT BE ALLOWED TO MAKE ANY DECISIONS REGARDING THEIR CHILDRENS LIVES AND SHOULD ONLY BE ALLOWED TO SEE THEIR CHILDREN UNDER VERY CONTROLLED CIRCUMSTANCES.

THE ALIENATING PARENTS MIND IS SO MUCH MORE COMPLEX THAN THE GENERAL POPULATION. THEY HAVE A SICKNESS THAT IS DIFFICULT TO COMPREHEND BUT NEVER THE LESS IS VERY REAL.


THERE HAVE BEEN LITTLE  TO NO CONSEQUENCES TO THESE MONSTERS. THE VERY JUSTICE SYSTEM THAT IS SUPPOSED TO PROTECT OUR CHILDREN AND MAKE DECISIONS THAT REFLECT THEIR  BEST INTERESTS DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE MAGNITUDE OF THE PROBLEM, OR DOES IT SIMPLY NOT CARE?

I HAVE RESOLVED TO THE IDEA THAT THIS SO CALLED PROCESS JUST CONTINUES TO GENERATE INCOME FOR THE SYSTEM WHICH JUST KEEPS IT ALIVE AND RUNNING.
WITHOUT PARENTS WHO LOVE THEIR CHILDREN AND WANTING WHATS BEST FOR THEM THE FAMILY COURT SYSTEM WOULD COME TO A SCREACHING HALT!
EQUALLY SO, IF IT WEREN'T FOR THE MONSTERS THAT USE OUR CHILDREN AGAINST US FOR THE PURPOSE OF PUNISHING US, THE SYSTEM WOULD COME TO A CRAWL.

I AM SURE OF ONE THING, I DON'T WANT TO BE A PAWN IN THEIR GAME AT THE EXPENSE OF MY CHILDREN OR YOURS.

WHEN WE SPEAK OUT FOR OUR CHILDREN  WE SEEM TO BE IGNORED OR WE ARE SEEN AS A PROBLEM.  WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN AND TRUELY WANT WHATS BEST FOR THEM.

THIS ROAD THAT I TRAVEL GIVES ME NO REWARD. I CONTINUE TO SPEND ENORMOUS AMOUNTS OF MONEY ON FRIVILOUS LITIGATION, ENORMOUS AMOUNTS OF TIME AND RESORCES ARE SPENT COMBATING CONTINUED ALLEGATIONS OF SOME SORT OF ABUSE.

THE MANAGER OF OUR LOCAL SCAN  (STOP CHILD ABUSE NOW) ORGANIZATION SAW WHAT WAS HAPPENING FROM THE BEGINING ABOUT 11 YEARS AGO. SHE WARNED ME ABOUT TAKING PRECAUTIONS.

I LISTENED AND STARTED TAKING SOME PRECAUTIONS BUT IT WAS TOO LATE WITH MATTHEW. I NEVER THOUGHT THAT AFTER 11 YEARS OF SPORATIC TIME WITH MY DAUGHTER AND TAKING PRECAUTIONS IT WOULD STILL BE TOO LATE!

HE WILL BE 17 YEARS OLD IN 9 DAYS AND HIS FUTURE DOESN'T LOOK VERY BRIGHT OR PROMISING. HE HAS HORRIBLE GRADES (FAILING) AND HAS BEEN INVOLVED ONE WAY OR ANOTHER WITH SEVERAL INCIDENTS THAT GOT THE ATTENTION OF OUR SHERIFF'S AND POLICE DEPARTMENTS. ALL THROUGH MIDDLE SCHOOL HIS GRADES HAVE BEEN FAILING. I HAVEN'T BEEN THERE TO HELP OR GUIDE HIM.

I HAVE NOT BEEN A PART OF HIS LIFE SINCE HE WAS 6 YEARS OLD. THE FIRST JUDGE IN THE CUSTODY CASE JUDGED THAT IT WOULD BE IN MATTHEW'S BEST INTEREST TO NOT BE REQUIRED TO VISIT WITH ME (HIS FATHER) UNTIL HE CHOSE TO.

 MY DAUGHTER AT 13 YEARS OLD CORRECTS ME AND SAYS HE WAS 7 YEARS OLD WHEN HE DISOWNED ME. LIKE A YEAR REALLY MAKES A DIFFERENCE! AM I ANGRY? I THINK SO!

I CANNOT TELL ANYONE WHICH ATTORNEY TO RETAIN IN THIS AREA OR ANY OTHER AREAS BUT I CAN TELL YOU WHICH ONES NOT TO HIRE!

THIS PAST MONDAY, I AM TOLD THAT THE CURRENT JUDGE RESIDING OVER OUR CASE HAS SUSPENDED VISITATION BETWEEN MY DAUGHTER AND I UNTIL ADDITIONAL INFORMATION COULD BE GATHERED. I HAVE NOT SEEN OR TALKED TO MY DAUGHTER SINCE JANUARY 13TH, 2010.  I AM TOLD THAT SHE GETS SICK WITH VOMITING AND  DIARRHEA WHEN SHE IS SUPPOSED TO VISIT WITH US. MATTHEW HAD THESE SYMTOMS WHEN HE WAS 6 YEARS OLD. DOES ANYONE SEE THE PATTERN BUT ME? GET SO UPSET THAT YOU HAVE VOMITING AND DIARRHEA AND YOU GET WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN AFTER...NO VISITATION! NOW IF THAT'S NOT ABUSE, I AM MIS-GUIDED.

 MY DAUGHTER'S MOTHER TOOK MY DAUGHTER TO ANOTHER THEROPIST OTHER THAN THE ONE THAT WAS APPOINTED BY THE COURT AND THE ONE WHICH HAS BEEN INVOLVED FOR SEVERAL YEARS AND IN TURN THIS NEW THEROPIST (LCSW # COO4933) HAS WRITTEN VERY DAMAGING AND SLANDEROUS STATEMENTS AGAINST ME AND MY DAUGHTERS STEPMOM. THE (LCSW #COO4933) HAS NEVER MET OR SPOKEN TO ME OR MY FAMILY!

NOW THERE IS SOME TYPE OF INVESTIGATION BY CPS CLAIMING EMMOTIONAL ABUSE BY ME. I WENT TO CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES AT THE ADVICE OF SEVERAL PROFESSIONALS AND CPS TURNED ME AWAY, WOULDN'T GET INVOLVED BECAUSE IT WAS A CUSTODY ISSUE.

I BET NONE OF THE PEOPLE THAT MY DAUGHTER'S MOM HAS RECRUITED KNOWS OF THE YEARS OF LITIGATION AND THE EVALUATIONS THAT HAVE BEEN COMPLETED BY PROFESSIONALS, BOTH CUSTODIAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL!

IT SEEMS THAT WE ARE UNABLE TO HELP MAKE IT BETTER FOR OUR CHILDREN AND THEREFORE THEY WILL CONTINUE TO SUFFER AND EVENTUALLY GROW INTO THE SAME ADULTS THAT WE TRY TO PROTECT THEM FROM. THE CYCLE WILL CONTINUE TO REPEAT ITSELF AS LONG AS WE CHOOSE TO LOVE OUR CHILDREN, WANT THE BEST FOR THEM, AND  FINANCIALLY SUPPORT THE  SYSTEM THAT TAKES THE EASIEST ROUTE TO DEAL WITH PARENTAL ALIEANTION...TO SYSTEMATICALLY REMOVE THE TARGETED PARENT! THE ONLY WAY TO DEAL WITH THESE MONSTERS IS WITH AN IRON HAND THE FIRST TIME THAT AN ORDER IS BROKEN.
I QUESTION IF IT WERE THEIR OWN, WOULD THEIR DECISIONS BE THE SAME? WOULD THEY RULE WITH AN IRON HAND OR NOT? HOW ARE MY CHILDREN OR YOURS WORTH LESS THAN THEIRS?

WE LOVE YOU KID(S),

DAD