Child(ren) Held Hostage

I hope this Blog will prove helpful in the recognition and useful in deterrence of Parental Alienation.

I will undoubtedly be using this blog in part as a therapeutic venue. I will also use this blog as a communication portal to my children if they should choose to use it.

"Parental Alienation is about parents who place their own selfish needs above those of their defenseless children and in doing so, they deny them their right to love and be loved by both parents. Alienators do not fit the stereotype of the deficient and ill-equipment parent. Instead, these parents are generally articulate, resourceful, and competent in all other aspects of their lives – except in the realm of parenting. In fact, these individuals might easily be mistaken for ideal parents, except to the properly informed, because they profess love and concern for their children. What sets these individuals apart from other dysfunctional parents is their overwhelming commitment to meeting their own needs first. In doing so, they destroy the relationship their children have with the other parent – at whatever cost. ” Dr. Reena Sommer - Internationally Recognized Divorce and Custody Consultant
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Monday, February 20, 2012

Painful memories...

Today I watched the daytime show Dr. Phil. I saw many of the dysfunctional aspects in that families lives that closely relates to my life. I wish I could be a part of most every aspect of your lives. When I say your lives I am referring to you two children.

As I watched this father today with his children on stage with Dr. Phil, I felt hopeless for him. I saw much of myself in him. The father has resolved to letting his children go. I saw the hatred that the children's mother had for the children's father and the impossible situation that the children's father seemed to be in. I recognized the impossible situation that the children were in too. I could hear the children's disgust of their father which sounded rehearsed and at very least sounded as if the children were doing their mother's bidding.

There were several notable reasons that the children were upset. The problem is that very little actually had much to do with the father's actions or lack of. It is unfortunate that the father seems to have the same thoughts that many fathers do that there is a hatred born when a father does pay court ordered child support yet doesn't see or have an unadultered relationship with his children.
I am already exhausted by my thoughts and wondering how to put them into words so I will close for now but will have much to say in the coming days, weeks, and years.

I do love you children,
Your Dad

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