Children Held Hostage: I Surrender...

Child(ren) Held Hostage

I hope this Blog will prove helpful in the recognition and useful in deterrence of Parental Alienation.

I will undoubtedly be using this blog in part as a therapeutic venue. I will also use this blog as a communication portal to my children if they should choose to use it.

"Parental Alienation is about parents who place their own selfish needs above those of their defenseless children and in doing so, they deny them their right to love and be loved by both parents. Alienators do not fit the stereotype of the deficient and ill-equipment parent. Instead, these parents are generally articulate, resourceful, and competent in all other aspects of their lives – except in the realm of parenting. In fact, these individuals might easily be mistaken for ideal parents, except to the properly informed, because they profess love and concern for their children. What sets these individuals apart from other dysfunctional parents is their overwhelming commitment to meeting their own needs first. In doing so, they destroy the relationship their children have with the other parent – at whatever cost. ” Dr. Reena Sommer - Internationally Recognized Divorce and Custody Consultant
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Sunday, May 12, 2013

I Surrender...

Today I will surrender once again. I surrender to my higher power. I am not in control of others, their way of thinking, or of how they choose to live their lives. I do however choose to have a say so in mine. I choose to not get sucked in.

I have the right to speak. I have the right to feel the way I do and want. I have the right to choose to have people in my life that don't want to harm me or my loved ones. I choose to keep harmful people at bay and to be cautious when they near.

An alienated parent thrives to develop a relationship with their children and all too often in attempting to do so it takes away from their own happiness and slows their continued progressions of living a quality life. Too often alienated parents try to make it up to their children for not having been a part in their lives. We cannot makeup lost time. We ask for forgiveness from our children for the lost time in which we had no control over. It is heartbreaking to come to a realization that I may never be worthy of being in your lives no matter what I do.

I choose to grieve. I choose to let go. I choose to not have hatred in my heart. I choose to forgive. I choose to be happy. I choose to accept the things that I cannot change.

I have had it all wrong. I don't know if I am or if I will ever be ready to be a part of their lives. I don't know if there will be a "time" or "right time" to be in their lives. I do know that this is not the time for me.

I am sorry, forgive me and pray for me as I forgive and pray for you always.

Children Held Hostage